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A busy manager can become an effective everyday coach by learning to give less advice and ask a little more curiously, using seven simple questions built into daily habits.

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The Coaching Habit distills coaching down to seven essential questions that any busy manager can use in ten minutes or less, and pairs them with the real science of habit formation so the new behaviour actually sticks. Instead of overly theoretical, occasional 'It's Coaching Time' events, Michael Bungay Stanier argues that coaching should be a daily, informal act of staying curious just a little longer and rushing to advice a little more slowly. Grounded in neuroscience, behavioural economics, and a decade of training more than ten thousand managers, the book shows how tiny shifts in how you open, focus, and close conversations can break the vicious circles of overdependence, overwhelm, and disconnection—so you work less hard and have more impact while helping your people grow.

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Who it’s for: A busy, well-intentioned manager or leader who wants to help their people grow while having more impact and working less hard.
The problem: They default to giving advice and solving problems, creating overdependent teams, overwhelm, and disconnection from meaningful work. They feel stretched thin, anxious about losing control if they ask instead of tell, and uncertain whether asking questions is actually useful.
The plan: Understand why old behaviours persist and use the New Habit Formula (trigger, old habit, new micro-behaviour).
Learn and practice the Seven Essential Questions, one at a time.
Apply question-asking disciplines: ask one question, cut the intro, favour 'What,' embrace silence, listen, and acknowledge.
Build each question into a specific, sixty-second habit anchored to a real trigger.
Start small, start easy, buddy up, and get back on the horse when you slip.
The payoff: You break the vicious circles of overdependence, overwhelm, and disconnection. · Your team becomes more self-sufficient, focused, and engaged in meaningful work. · You work less hard, have more impact, and become a more trusted, respected leader.

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The Power of Habit · Charles Duhigg
Explains the science of habit formation, which is the core mechanism the book proposes for changing managerial behavior.
Drive · Daniel H. Pink
Provides insight into the nature of motivation, supporting the book's premise that empowering people to find their own answers increases engagement and performance.
Helping: How to Offer, Give, and Receive Help · Edgar Schein
Analyzes the dysfunctional dynamics of 'helping,' which reinforces the book's caution against the manager's 'Rescuer' or 'Advice Monster' tendencies.
Playing to Win: How Strategy Really Works · Roger Martin and A.G. Lafley
Offers a simple and powerful framework for strategy that directly informs the Strategic Question ('If you're saying Yes to this, what are you saying No to?').
Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning · Peter Brown, Henry Roediger and Mark McDaniel
Details the science of learning and memory retrieval, which supports the effectiveness of the Learning Question ('What was most useful for you?').
The Inner Game of Tennis · Timothy Gallwey
This is the foundational text for the book's entire philosophy. It introduces the core concepts of 'potential vs. interference' (P=p-i) and how to unlock natural learning through focused, non-judgmental awareness.
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People · Stephen Covey
The book's 'Performance Curve' model is directly inspired by Covey's progression from dependence to independence to interdependence, providing a framework for understanding cultural and individual maturity.
Good to Great · Jim Collins
Referenced for its concept of 'Level 5 Leadership' (a blend of personal humility and professional will), which the book aligns with the state of self-mastery and authenticity achieved through advanced coaching.
Emotional Intelligence · Daniel Goleman
Provides the research background for the claim that coaching is 'emotional intelligence in practice.' Understanding Goleman's work deepens the rationale for why coaching skills are critical for modern leadership.
The Fifth Discipline · Peter Senge
Senge's work on 'learning organizations' aligns with the book's argument that a coaching culture is essential for fostering the continuous learning and adaptation required in today's business environment.